Watch “Sunday Ola Fadipe | Self Development Journey – Lesson 2” on YouTube

Investing in your self is a no-brainer, but the cost of doing so scares many people. 
Spend more and attract quality people and things to your life. Refrain from spending and remain a mediocre. What would you rather do?
New video on the self development journey.
Cheers!

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Becoming A Better Person Every Day; Let’s Help Each Other!

Hello, friends.

This is the first video I’m posting on this blog and I’m very excited. It is coming at a time when I feel the need to do more in terms of how I contribute to the lives of people around me. 

Every day of my life, I am passionately driven towards personal and professional development. To live life to the fullest, there is a need to push and expand our boundaries as humans. That is why I describe myself as, apart from being a lawyer and a public speaker, a leadership and self-development enthusiast and advocate.

So, in the process of rigorously pursuing my personal development, I feel the need to share my thoughts, experiences and knowledge in helping others in this journey of becoming better persons. Most people I am close to know that one of the foremost questions I ask is “so, what are you doing with your life?”

This is the first of many videos in this journey. If you want to go on this exciting journey of committing our lives to becoming persons with me, kindly drop your message, comment and you can follow my blog so you will be the first to be informed as soon as I post each video.

Thank you.

From me,

Sunday,

Your buddy in this journey of life.

Do you have content or you are contented with no content? (2)

About two months ago, I wrote the first part of this topic. I did not know at the time that I would have a cause to write another part of it but here it is. If you have not read the first one, click here to do so. 

When people talk about their most embarrassing moments, I always get lost in the conversation for lack of any experience or better still, any significant one in that common conversational topic. The reason is simple. It’s hard for you to find me in an embarrassing situation. I detest it. I consciously avoid embarrassment like I avoid approaching a lady I do not know on the street (except for ‘aro‘ purposes in University days in Zik Hall 😂😂), like I avoid pestering a lady for attention, like I avoid leading praise and worship session anywhere outside my private room ( I don’t remember follow-up songs and I think I am tone-deaf 😂😂). 

In a similar vein, countless times, I have found myself under pressure and tension for people close to me not to get embarrassed. When a friend or colleague is standing in a position where he has to deliver a speech or make a presentation, my heart does not leave my mouth until he or she is done and gives a great performance. This was always my lot during my public speaking involvements in University of Ibadan. Even when I was part of the preparation process of the speakers, an air of unease would still swirl round about me during the delivery. It was worse if a speaker observed a deliberate pause but the pause was becoming unnecessarily long.

However, most times, I have come to realise that my self-induced pressure and tension is needless and it is just a sheer pill for another person’s good health. These people neither fail nor get embarrassed because they are assured and well-grounded in what they say or do. This is the power of content. 

It is however necessary to distinguish between ‘situation-content‘ and ‘expert-content‘. Situation-content describes when a person is not well-grounded in an area but has to conduct an extensive study or make an in-depth research for the purpose of a particular occasion or situation. For instance, for the purpose of delivering a lecture or making a presentation or offering an opinion on a subject before an audience. 

Expert-content on the other hand, as the name implies, describes the expertise of a person in a particular subject who out of training, formal or informal, has become well versed in that subject matter, or simply put, has become an ‘authority.’

People with quality content do not struggle. They do not overheat in their “content-zone“. They seamlessly deliver and perform to the awe of onlookers because they have tarried in the place of building. They perform ordinarily but it is accorded to them as extraordinary.

Unfortunately, we have placed prominence in the things that matter less. We have elevated the container above the content; the packaging above the package; external above internal. We now have more people interested in building abs rather than the brain; more people interested in painting faces rather than adorning the mind.  It’s not that these things are wrong. But the caution is not to major in the minor. 

As a personal adaptation of what a facilitator said at a virtual conference (The Refinery 1.0) I was part of yesterday, we think we are perceived in the following order:

1. How we appear

2. How we say what we say

3. What we say

However, in the long run we are assessed and judged worthy of respect in the following order:

1. What we say

2. How we say what we say

3. How we appear

Below is a piece I wrote sometime ago while thinking about something similar to this topic:
“Warn these young boys…

They are more interested in broadening their shoulders with hours working out than broadening their horizons in the place of thorough study;

They are more interested in starching their garments looking like bloated balloons than pursuing enduring personal development.

Tell them…

The world will accord them fickle respect from afar but give them a good dressing down on a closer look, if their words reek of mediocrity.”

Even the Bible says:

What matters is not your outer appearance–the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes–but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.”

1 Peter 3:3-4 (TMB)

Ours is a generation of shallowness and superficiality. The few that focus on depth are those who will remain relevant in the long haul.

Selah!

PS: If you have not read the first part where I shared a few points on how to build content, you can still read it here.

Do you have content or you are contented with no content?

Young, vigorous, creative and bold men and women are on the rise. They are taking the world by storm and turning traditions on their heads. Traditional thinking has for too long held our nation in the shackles of motion without progress, restricting the spate of invention and innovation.

A few weeks ago, I was at the 11th Annual Conference of the Nigerian Bar Association-Section on Business Law, there were various sessions handled by many speakers both from within and outside the legal profession. The speakers had a very great impression on the audience. Many of us wished the Conference would not end soon. In actual fact, the ones who made the greatest impression were the young lawyers who are just about 2-4 years at the bar. These young lawyers, standing on the elevated platform to speak to some juniors, few mates and countless seniors at the other divide, held the audience spellbound, spewing wisdom, truth and drawing more attention to the disruptive and/or enabling work they do.

In my usual reflective state, I pondered on what earned these young and vibrant men and women the enviable stage they were sharing with men and women of the highest pedigree in the profession. They were not stuttering. They were not intimidated. They were assured. They had content! 

Yes! That’s it! They had content. They had one of the primary requirements for relevance in the present-day society: the depth of content.
I’ve seen many young people direly crave prominence and relevance but are not ready to build the requisite content for such a level.

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In whatever field or career, content is a crown. Musicians with no depth of content fade away like puff of smoke. We know them already. They are the ones who take a walk into obscurity after one hit single. At other times, they share similarities with ‘abiku‘. A doctor with no content is called a quack. Lawyers with no content, empty barrels look up to them.

So, there is a need for each person to tarry in the place of learning and building. There is a need for filling and refilling till your cups are full enough to share quality quantity with others. How so?

1
. Learn the ropes of your craft: Be diligent. Learn the workings of your chosen field. Be competent. Competence makes people look like superhumans.

2
. Exposure: Be curious. Explore. Broaden your horizon. Go out of your normal and daily habitat. Mix with people of opposing views and divergent professions.

3
. Association: Associate yourself with the right people. Be challenged. Be pushed out of your comfort zone. If you isolate yourself when you ought to associate yourself, you would limit yourself.

4
. Personal and professional development: Daily, strive to be better. Go to conferences. Take courses that make you better. Be forward looking at all times. There’s no ceiling on the sky.

5
. Your mind food: Feed your mind properly. Read great books. Watch great videos. Listen to relevant audio clips necessary for your growth. What you feed your mind with is important.

Do you have content or you are contented with no content? Remember, content is a crown. Those who have it are Kings! Well, everybody cannot be a King. Some are meant to be towncriers.